My post said “completely redesigning the bathroom to make each stall accessible is better than removing two small stalls to make one big one, even if that means renovating other parts of the building to make the bathroom bigger, because having less stalls makes things less accessible for people with GI problems (hi) and also many times the literal only accessible stall is out of order and low priority to fix and thus not actually accessible to anyone (hi I’m describing something that happened to me while I was using a wheelchair because I was PARALYZED DOWN MY RIGHT SIDE)”
My other post said “you can be oppressed and also have privilege at the same time, no one with a brain can argue that black people aren’t oppressed, also we have black people in some of the highest forms of government in this country including one leading the country which I think is probably one of the highest forms of privilege and we have done this before most other oppressed races in this country”
(also it’s a well known fact that latinos and natives earn on average less than black people, and that latinos, asians, and arabs are the first targetted for mass-deportation, and that black people got the right to vote well before native americans were counted as citizens of the country they populated before any of the rest of us got here, which does mean there is some privilege to be discussed in these conversations)
My post also specifically said I have witnessed black people using the common knowledge of antiblack oppression as a shield when they themselves are being racist to these groups in which it is significantly more difficult to say who is “more oppressed”, and that these people who do that are very annoying because they are trying to justify being bullies rather than having a shred of empathy towards other oppressed demographics.
Sorry but when I see someone saying “it’s not possible for black people to be racist because black people have no power, so I’m not being racist by saying [racial slur or stereotype] because I’m black” during a time when a black person literally runs the damn country, I think that person is being an asshole 🤷♂️
Also you are a white person trying to lecture a black person on antiblackness… make it make sense…
Having a conversation and hug with a 50+ year old nonbinary butch who just got top surgery and has never had a conversation with another transgender person before, and they told me with tears in their eyes that they waited 50 years for their happiness and never once did they think they would meet someone like them and I just
We’ve always been here. We’ve always been here.
Can you imagine? Living over 50 years and never once having a conversation with someone like you? Living over 50 years and it’s someone 20 years your junior that you come out to for the first time? That the first time you say “I’m transgender” to someone other than the mirror, it’s to a person you’ve known for maybe a couple months? I said to them, I understand you are closeted, and I won’t out you, but when it’s just us what do you want me to call you? And they said, the same as you were, but in here (touch chest) I’m [name, pronouns].
And then they said, it is good to know you. I’m glad we met. We have a new bond now.
And I told them, when I was a child, people like you were my heros. I wished I could be butch because that was me, except I never had interest in girls. And they said, I understand, because when I met my first butch, everything made sense in that instant to me too.
Can you imagine? Being more than 50 years old and happening to find someone who sees *you* for the first time?
We’ve ALWAYS been here. We just couldn’t find each other, before.
“Dude is gender neutral” “girl is gender neutral” if I have to hear this one more time because No, the fuck it ain’t. If I said “there was a dude in a purple hat” would a woman come to your mind? “Well it’s not used in that way” You don’t get to decide what connotations a word has. If you say “But I’m using it in a different way” in response to someone saying it makes them uncomfortable you’re ignoring the problem. You don’t need to stop using it altogether just be aware of what a word actually means outside your personal definition
Oh yeah it’s not even a coolsville sucks thing, they’re just straight up making shit up about me and spreading it as truth all while having me blocked (but they didn’t block my main so I can still see it, just can’t interact) so I can’t even reply directly to say “hey that’s literally not what I said at all”.
But they’re also mad at me for saying that businesses should cater to as many disabilities and needs as possible instead of trying to make a halfassed catch-all that literally nobody likes because that’s… somehow saying it’s too difficult to accomodate wheelchairs? Like
Me: there should be ramps and stairs and wheelchair lifts and elevators and escalators and really ideally all of these options could be avoided if we stopped doing split levels where split levels aren’t needed in the first place
Them: so you think ramps for wheelchairs are too bothersome to include??? You think wheelchair users should be fine with stairs???
Me: I think too many businesses include stairs and split levels when they could just have their business level with the sidewalk and all on one floor with no need to go up or down as that is the option most accessible to every mobility need
Them: so you HATE wheelchair users and think it’s too difficult to make things accessible, blocked
i wish ppl on this website, and within leftist circles in general, were a little less gung ho about making jokes or statements like “billionaires arent people” “nazis arent people” “police arent people”
there is no level of evil where a human stops being a human. if you decide to kill them for their crimes, then you are killing a human. and sometimes that is justified! oil execs and war profiteers have destroyed countless lives in service of their own sick greed, and given the chance to enact that same violence on them, id probably pop their heads like a pimple.
but it is important that we do not shy away from the reality of that choice. it is a human life that is being ended. a person with interiority, feelings, family.
if we stop considering any group as people, even a group defined by their own evil actions, then we are drawing a line to divide society into persons and non-persons, and stating that those non-persons do not deserve to live.
i hope i dont need to explain why that is a dangerous position to take.
these people and all of their evil, their greed, their hatred, are just as much a part of humanity as art, culture, language, food. they are a part of us that has grown malignant and cancerous, and like a cancer, they must be excised for the sake of the whole–but they are still a part of us, made of the same stuff as us, down to their cores.
the commodification of friendship is the most annoying thing to come out of the internet in ages. like actually i love to break this to you but you’re supposed to help your friends move even if it’s hard work. or stay up with them when they’re sad even if you’re gonna lose sleep. you’re supposed to listen to their fears and sorrows even if it means your own mind takes on a little bit of that weight. that’s how you know that you care. they will drive you to the airport and then you will make them soup when they’re sick. you’re supposed to make small sacrifices for them and they are supposed to do that for you. and there’s actually gonna be rough patches for both of you where the balance will be uneven and you will still be friends and it will not be unhealthy and they will not be abusive. life is not meant to be an endless prioritization of our own comfort if it was we would literally never get anywhere ever. jesus.
not gonna lie i might skip making a princess tutu shrine and just make an entire princess tutu fansite
I just cannot figure out how to make a simple shrine on my website cause regardless it’s gonna include multiple pages, I tried a one-page look and i just cannot
👀 btw I could link you some ancient ptutu fansite captures circa 2004 as ~inspiration~ if you like.
This oneproudly proclaimed itself to be “the first english language tutu fansite on the web”! The sidebar images are, uh, broken, but the links do work.
The links page of the first site mentions this site being the second ever english-language tutu fansite on the web. Very minimalist design. It only contains content for Chapter of the Egg.
fuck “girl lunch” fuck “girl math” a woman is a hairy animal who sweats and grunts and excretes and hungers and gets wrinkly and dies eventually. you have to love that.
On Saturday I hung out with my 84-year-old ecologist great uncle and he stopped in mid-conversation (abt the return of the whooping crane) and very seriously told me that “you can go one of two ways, as a naturalist”; either you keep sight of the hopeful possibilities, or you don’t. I’m one of nature’s wretched little pessimists but when an old ecologist literally holds your hands in his and tells you, “don’t despair,” you have to try, I feel.
I’m immune to a lot of the “hopepunk” narratives about ecology but…
The Karner Blue butterfly was extirpated from Canada the year before I was born. He donated to one of the projects to bring it back for years, and even though the project he was working on fizzled out, I told him about the branch in Toronto, still going strong. They save every lupine seed they can harvest and germinate them carefully so that in 20, 30, 40 years we might have enough habitat to bring the Blues back. He was part of the first wave of that effort.
Fuck!!!! What do you do with that kind of care? You have to at least try to believe that better things are possible!
I think these conversations would go better if we conceptualized terms like “homophobia”, “transphobia”, and “misogyny” not as the “basic” oppression that you start with until you sprinkle intersectionality on top, but rather as names for where more complex experiences overlap.
“Transphobia” is not the “base” we start with and build on with other experiences; it’s the place where more specific experiences overlap. It’s the middle of the venn diagram where “transmisogyny”, “transandrophobia”, and “exorsexism”/“nbphobia” all overlap with each other.
It’s the thing we all have in common; not the thing that some people get extra special versions of while others do not.
whenever another victim chooses to share their story when the perpetrator is currently already under social media scrutiny assholes are always like “hmm convenient timing to come out with your story” like yeah actually its a lot easier to speak out against someone when their bad behavior has already been exposed vs when their public opinion is at an all time high. who would have thought.
i dont think you understand how much i hate that pretty much the only moment of self awareness and deep emotion Forrest Gump is given is at the end when he asks if his son is disabled like him.
